I think I found my answer
In this post they reference the error, and that it’s caused by an insecure flag.
I removed the text issecured="true" from the <CommandClass id="91" line in the zwcfg_*.xml for both nodes and then tried my button again and got
2020-11-09 18:56:28.977 Info, Node010, Received Central Scene set from node 10: scene id=3 in 7680 seconds. Sending event notification.
2020-11-09 18:56:28.977 Detail, Node010, Initial read of value
2020-11-09 18:56:28.978 Detail, Node010, Notification: ValueChanged
2020-11-09 18:56:39.778 Detail, Node010, Received: 0x01, 0x0b, 0x00, 0x04, 0x00, 0x0a, 0x05, 0x5b, 0x03, 0x30, 0x83, 0x02, 0x16
AND MY LIGHTS TURNED PINK! One small step for me one giant leap for my Home Automation. 